Tired as (bleep)
My darling daughter decided that she was going to torture her poor mother by having a cough that was so congested sounding that I really considered taking her to the ER.
Pre-croup I think. There is nothing worse than listening to your child struggle for air. Nothing. And today I am tired, really tired. Bitchy tired. Grumpy at the kids tired. And I hate feeling this way.
I have been bugged by the fact that my son is almost 4, and still refuses to use the potty. I have tried sticker charts, and now we are bribing him with chocolate if he goes on the potty. He refuses. Ugh! It is so frustrating! My daughter on the other hand who is not quite 2 has peed on the potty twice. I am sure that she may not realize that is what she is supposed to do, but she did. Potty training is tough as hell. I do not want to push my son, but I am growing a bit impatient.
I have to also say that my son is so headstrong, and that has been bothering me as well. My daughter is so fuss free. And it makes me feel like I am treating them differently, and I do not want to do this. My son is so hard. And I find myself talking to him about sharing, and all kinds of things because he is 2 years older. I love my kids dearly, but has anyone ever felt like they want to hang out with the easier one more? My husband seems to deal with my son more than I do, and I deal more with my daughter, but I do not want the family to be split into two pairs like that.
I hope I am making sense, I am very tired. Today I am feeling like an incompetent mother. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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Lord, woman, I think if we're honest, we'll admit that all of us struggle with wanting to hang out with the easier kid more! Your son sounds like my Danielle who is a survivor (cause I haven't killed her yet) and is now 14! I seriously thought she'd have to go to kindergarten in diapers! She used to tell me that she was afraid for her poop to fall into the toilet. Now if they're having conversations with you about their own potty training, you know they understand the whole process. She was 4 1/2 before she actually was trained. I'm not one to follow the books either. In fact, I was the mom who judged other mothers who were ok letting their kids be over the age of 2 and NOT potty trained! The laugh was on me with Danielle. My olders daughter was completely potty trained at 16 months. How did this happen to me? I don't know but I seriously hope that when she has kids of her own, they'll all be 5 or 6 when their out of diapers! lol
Danielle was also head strong and so hard to deal with. I felt guilty for a very long time because I'd always choose to hang out with Amber or Julia. I jumped at the chance to have mom babysit her because mom seemed to have more patience. I'm REALLY asahmed of that but it's true. This is the child that I waited 9 years and several miscarriages to have. I PRAYED for her. I hated myself for not being able to take care of her without SCREAMING. She was finally diagnosed with ADD and it explained so much. The more I learned about this, the more patience I had with her.
If it helps, Danielle and I are inseperable now. I absolutely LOVE hanging out with her because she's so funny she'll make you pee your pants. I guess it's been like this since she turned 6. It will all be good with your son eventually. The only advice I have for you is to get away when you think you've had enough. Thank God your husband WILL do what he does with your son. It's not a bad thing to admit your frustrated. I have to keep reminding myself that June Cleaver (Leave it to Beaver) really is a ficticious character! lol I'll never be that perfect mom that I so much wish my kids had. I'm the best mom that I can be though and my kids wouldn't trade me for another mother! In fact, as bad as I am, they still actually WANT to hang out with me (and they're teenagers!). You're son will be the same way. You're too cool of a person for your kids NOT to think you're the best:) (((hugs)))
I do appreciate your feedback, and it did make me feel better. I do my best.
What you're experiencing sounds normal, in my (admittedly limited) experience. But you're definitely not an incompetent mother, or you wouldn't be so worried about this! :)
I am in the middle of the potty training war with Evie. She'll be 3 in August, so I guess I shouldn't be too crazy about it yet. But she refuses to sit on the potty. I mean, flat out refuses! And yet she will tell me as soon as she has a dirty diaper by bringing me her wipes, her pull-up, and her diaper rash cream. So I know the kid is ready to use the potty!
Like you, we are now bribing her. But so far, she couldn't care less.
I think the family split is something we all work on. I have a special bond with the two year old. My hubby has that bond with the five year old. So we have to make a conscious effort to not play favorites or use different treatment with the kids. It's so hard though! So I know just what you mean....
haha...I guess I have absolutely no advice. Just wanted you to know that I am currently living your life from way down here!
In the meantime, though, rest assured that I do understand. I mesh really well with my five year old and my husband with the three and a half year old. I love them both and they both love me - I know that - but our personalities just jive differently. It's all normal. Or so I'm told - haha. (c:
Nat... Potty training is harder than I thought... just like breastfeeding was harder... I am not the most patient of people... People keep telling me that he wont go to high school in diapers.. Hmmmm...
Tired... slept like shit again last night so I am tired again... and I am spending the day in Boston where I am going to be someone's godmother... (will blog about that later)
Maggie... we are in the same boat... welcome to my blog...
Flippy... Thanks for the info friend... you always hook me up with the good links.